The Way I See It – Anonymous letters do not make me happy; I’ve had bad experiences but don’t talking about them
I would like to commend all those who were involved in Sunday’s prayer gathering at the school. I certainly believe in the power of prayer and that we need all the help we can get!
Without a doubt many things are not working they way they should and it would be great to get past this. The Hi-Line area is a wonderful and supportive place to live. This kind of division is simply not a good thing in a small town environment.
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I have tried very hard to stay as close to the middle as I possibly can on the issues that have arisen at the school over the past couple of years. I have tried not to let my less-than-forthcoming talks with some at the school taint my perceptions; at least those I express publicly. Instead, I have attempted to get the school to get ahead of controversial issues and be more open with the public.
I was hoping the work toward healing could begin soon.
Then I received an anonymous letter to the editor this week!
Some people are making it very, very hard for me to try to stay in the middle!
First off, I consider anonymous letters to be the most cowardly of communications. More so when it appears they actually seem to expect it to be published.
That is NOT going to happen!
It is largely the rule (Though there are exceptions) at every publication I have worked at to NOT publish such anonymous drivel. It is considered pure “file 13” material.
At this point, I want to tell the writer not to bother to tell me who you are; I really don’t want to know, as I fear it is someone I like and/or respect. I would like to keep it that way.
I would have considered long and hard whether or not to publish a letter like this anyway, even if it had been signed. If I did publish it you can certainly expect a vicious response. But, at this point, neither is going to happen!
Because this letter opens with a personal attack on me (big surprise there, Duh!) then goes down hill. It did make some good points, but all twisted a single direction; not good. It closes by claiming you can find the correct information at the school and implies the truth is nowhere else. With that I find exception and I will as gently as possible explain why.
So, let me get this straight, the students are all liars, their parents are all liars, anyone not involved with the school are all liars; is that what you are really saying? You may put it less bluntly, but that is the implication here.
Hmmmmm… My personal experiences differ!
Only in the past few years have I ever felt there was no sense calling a school official at this, or any other, school I have covered. I always felt I was going to be treated fairly and get a solid overview in the past. Lately, however, wellllll… let’s just say I have decided you can only beat your head against a brick wall so long (and I do this a lot less than when I was in my 20s) so I gave up.
Ahhh for the old days.
One example of a change I have made is this – just three years ago I never felt I had to be at every regular school board meeting, I could always go to a school official to get the gist of what I missed at the meeting. If there was something special going on I would often get a call. It was always simple, neat, no problems. I never felt like it was a waste of time or that I was going to get the run around…
Now, if I have to miss a meeting, there will be no story!
All my adult life I’ve felt there are three sides to every issue; those for, those opposed and the truth. The truth ALWAYS lies somewhere between the two extremes. Each extreme has part of the truth, but does not consider the other side. It is pretty normal human behavior. When kids are involved, parents are often not interested in another side, that is also normal. BUT, the parents can usually be reasoned with if the school personnel are willing to consider the parent’s side and try to work toward common ground. Certainly not always, nor on every issue, is that going to be true; but most of the time.
I certainly do not agree with everything that goes on at the school and never have (and likely never will). Nor do I ever agree with everything any individual or any entity does, I tend to think for myself; I tend to look for the “rest of the story” as much as I can.
I believe that if everyone is thinking alike, than someone isn’t thinking!
With those stated beliefs in mind, does anyone really think I’m only talking to one side of any issue? Do you think I wouldn’t go to the school officials if I felt I could?
If so then you are the one with a problem!
However, my personal experience over the past two years plus is that I can’t generally go there. My experience over the protest simply re-enforces my previous experiences.
These are MY experiences! I know people want more information and want me to explain exactly what those experiences are. Not going to happen! On the other hand, I have felt, for more than two years and especially in the past year, that doing that would do more harm than good. Therefore, I will not get specific in the hope that there is a chance the school related issues may be resolved as soon as possible. To publicly throw out direct accusations and name names will just create more deep-seated resentment.
We have more than enough of that going around already.
On a side note, I do believe in the system devised generally, though specific cases may require jumps over potential problem areas. I’ve have been involved personally with an issue I had to take through the “chain of command” on only one occasion; and then I was only there to support relatives. I understood the process, I believed it was right and I wanted to help them through that process. We were not satisfied at any response and went up the chain, but it was largely uneventful. It ended up going to the school board, it did not get resolved the way I would have liked, but I felt the whole thing was fairly dealt with all the way up.
That was 12 years ago!
Ahhh for the old days!
‘Nuff said!Posted: by OverlieP